Painful Relationships2019-01-04T13:47:25-05:00

Narcissist Abuse Recovery

Today, narcissism and emotional abuse are becoming more open topics of discussion.  These may be newer terms, but it’s certainly not a newer problem.

It’s not always easy to recognize what is going on when you love someone who may display narcissistic traits and behaviors.

A relationship such as this can make you feel:

  • Constantly blamed
  • Confused
  • Guilty
  • Anxious / depressed
  • Like you’re walking on eggshells
  • As if you’re the crazy one.

And, you may not have a name for the behaviors that make you feel bad about yourself.  Some women tell me, “I just couldn’t put my finger on what it was.”  Yet, you know that these types of relationships are painful.

For, they can cause you to:

  • Feel alone and constantly misunderstood;
  • Experience almost daily feelings of guilt & self-doubt;
  • Defend yourself often from blame;
  • Become confused about your relationship;
  • Walk on eggshells wondering if what you say will set him off;
  • Keep hoping things will get better;
  • Have thoughts about ending the relationship;
  • Feel resigned or stuck.

It’s not always easy for others to understand the difficulties of living with someone who is narcissist.  I do.  And, I’ll educate you so you’ll have new and healthier behavioral options in your toolbox.

It’s not my decision whether you stay in or leave your marriage or relationship.  But, I will teach you the rules by which a narcissist operates so you can disengage from these painful dynamics.  Feeling empowered in your life and being yourself is our goal.

Codependency

When a woman loves too much she can easily place her focus on another person, whether her significant relationship partner, a child or someone with an active addiction, loosing an important connection to herself.

When this happens, it can become difficult to:

  • Easily make decisions;
  • Distinguish your needs from the needs of others;
  • Stop placing other people first;
  • Say, “No” when you really want to;
  • Set appropriate boundaries and hold to them;
  • Not take on too much responsibility, both physical and emotional.

Women who struggle with codependency tend to be very nice and are kind to others, sometimes to a fault.   This can easily draw in those who take advantage of them. Or, they may find themselves in unbalanced relationships.

Healing codependency is something I can help you with through therapy.

Love Addiction

You may not have thought love could possibly be addictive.  But, if you:

  • Constantly crave being in a romantic relationship;
  • Find it difficult or nearly impossible to leave an unhealthy relationship;
  • Interpret small gestures of connection into the meaning of intense love;
  • Feel desperate and alone when not in a relationship;
  • Miss out on time spent with family or friends to seek out romantic love

you may be struggling with an addictive pattern.

In addition to 12-Step support, individual therapy with a therapist who understands the inner pain you may feel, can be important to your recovery and feelings of wholeness.

Heroic Self-Love

 Turn your inner critic and that worn out negative self-talk into actions that make you shine.

Through education, insight and guidance you can come to understand the origin of this negative pattern and begin to replace it with something new.

Your individual therapy may include such things as:

  • Natural nutrition coaching;
  • Self-care behaviors;
  • Mindfulness practices;
  • Inner Child Healing;
  • Connecting to your feminine presence.

Self-love helps you feel a greater sense of integration and wholeness.  And, I believe this to be the key to happier and healthier relationships.